faq
Do both people answer the questions?
Yes. Start with question one, generally it’s recommended that you, the leader, answer first to help set the expectation that we are trying to go deep and be authentic. You can’t make a person go deep, but you can set the example before they also answer. Once you answer question one, then they answer question one. Then you both move on to question two etc.
Is TEN for women only?
No. However, it is recommended for women’s groups or groups of Men and Women. Ten for Men is recommended for Men’s ministries or retreats where only men are in attendance.
Ten people seems like a lot, why ten?
Someone may feel they don't know of 10 people with whom they could do TEN. Keep in mind there is no time limit and no hurry. Pray and let God bring people to mind that He would like you to invite to do TEN. Also, most people have more people than they realize. An example of 10 may include 2-3 acquaintances from church that you know, but not that well. One or two neighbors with whom you talk regularly but not deeply. Two or three family members such as cousins and siblings, and two to three friends you already know pretty well. That can quickly add up to 10 or more people!
What if someone says NO to meeting?
That’s ok! Remember there is no pressure and no motive.
What if I know someone who is an atheist and hostile to talking about Jesus?
Pray. Ask God if you should approach this person for TEN or not. Remember this is about relationships, not pressure or forcing. No matter how much you want to save this person, forcing them to do TEN and answer question number ten may not work. Ten should be fun, the minute it is not, it is time to stop.
Can I do TEN Again before I do TEN with an individual?
It is not recommended. TEN Again is thoughtfully created for a follow up conversation with one or several of your original ten people and the questions are designed with this in mind.
Do we have to meet in person?
It is strongly recommended to meet in person but when that is not possible, a video call is a great option. A phone call with no video, however, likely will not accomplish the goal of TEN and is not recommended if there is another way.
What if someone doesn’t have an answer to question number ten?
That’s ok! A suggestion would be to say “if you ever do have a question about Jesus, I just want you to know I am someone you could ask”, and leave it at that.
Do conversations need to be one on one, or can three or more participate?
All TEN programs work best one on one to accomplish the goal of authentic conversation and relationship. People tend not to open up and share as much in groups and can more easily put on a mask. Pursuing TEN with a group of three or more can work, however, it takes more time as each participant answers each question.